The Gentlemen’s Checklist

The Gentleman’s Checklist is not only a guide to the essentials for the dapper lifestyle, but rules to live by because being a gentleman is a choice that never goes out of style.” 

 

  1. CONFIDENCE ….is key!

Without that, little of what you say or do will be as effective as you would like it to be. Know your worth and what you can offer and you’ll be amazed at what gets attracted to your new emanating energy! Dig deep and find the elements that make you authentically you and own it.

  1. SWAGGER & CHARM.

Gentlemen, a healthy dose of both these qualities will let people know you look good, feel good and will inevitable attract people to you. So before you second guess yourself, give yourself the pep talk you need to push those shoulders back and walk like you own the place. Remember, what you convey through body language is communicated 93% stronger than verbal communication so make sure you’re sending the right message.

3. MANNERS

This is not just a dying art form, it’s a must! Whether you’re walking that elderly lady across the street or holding the door open for a mom with a stroller, like it or not, your manners are saying more about you then you realize. The mark of a true gentleman can always be seen in the way he treats those around him.

4. CHIVALRY

Because good old romance ain’t dead yet. To those gents clever enough to truly understand the locks this magical key will open, kudos. For the rest of you … google it ASAP!

5. SIGNATURE SCENT

So she can sense your presence before she even lays eyes on you and stay on her mind long after that kiss good night. Did you know that fragrances smell different on every person? Everyone has a different body chemistry and because of that every scent will translate differently on your skin than the next guy. When purchasing a signature scent keep 2 things in mind: i) what you WANT to smell like and ii) what the fragrance smells like on you after a few hours. You will want to test out a few and DON’T buy the same day – make sure you still like it after the top notes have faded. A gentlemen’s signature scent will not only make an impression, it’s your lasting impression… so make sure it’s a good one.

  1. KNOW YOUR WINE

A gentleman is only as smooth as the wines that he enjoys. Know your basics, this doesn’t mean you need to be a connoisseur but know the difference between a Merlot and a Malbec. Taste a few and determine what your favorites are then find out what year they had the best grapes! You will be dripping of sophistication and elegance as you impress the socks (and maybe more) off your dinner date.

7. A GREAT SUIT … or THREE!

The Gentlemen’s Wardrobe Essential’s Checklist (a more in depth look, in an upcoming article) requires you to be presentable and appropriate for any and all occasions life brings your way. This means you will need in your wardrobe, at minimum, i) a perfectly fit black suit for the unexpected funeral or formal affair ii)  navy suit for daytime functions and less formal occasions iii)  grey suit, to alternate with the navy suit for daytime, less formal occasions as well as the spring/summer months. These three suits will provide you the foundation for a suiting selection for looking dapper and sophisticated no matter the occasion.

  1. A GREAT TAILOR.

Not an option if you do not get your suits custom made. Although I always recommend a made to measure or bespoke suit (which one is dependent on budget) given the option, if you must purchase off the rack, alterations are not something you want to take a chance with. You want people to notice YOU in the suit, not the suit you are in and a great tailor will ensure you get noticed for looking sharp.

9. MENS ACCESSORIES.

Because clothes don’t make the man, his accessories do. Ok so this is obviously arguable, however, a well accessorized gentleman is seen as paying attention to the fine details. So make a point of investing in that great watch, that sexy bracelet and classic sunglasses you’ve been debating; it all adds to the image and look of sophistication and class. It’s all in the details.

  1. VULNERABILITY

What are you passionate about? Job? Car? Sports? Fashion? Family? Don’t be afraid to show off those things that hold a key to your heart – that’s what makes you human and real and nothing is more appealing than a gent who’s not afraid of his emotional side. On the other hand, it also shows that you are multi-dimensional and have hobbies and interests. Whether you are looking to impress that special someone or putting your best self forward with the bosses, showing your human side makes you seem balanced in life and in control of what you want.

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Really Rock Your Denim

Denim. 
It’s a wardrobe staple…a fashion essential.
It’s classic, stylish and comfortable (yes, comfortable). I know what you’re thinking, and the answer is ‘yes’, you can have it all in a single pair. The trick is knowing where to go, what to look for and who to ask for help.
Wrong size.
Saggy bottom syndrome.
Too tight in the thighs.
Bagging at the knees.
Loose in the waist.
Those are only some of the things that could go wrong with your denim – working in the industry, i’ve heard it all.
Take a look at a few non-negotiables one needs to remember when shopping for a new pair of denim:
Fit, Look, Budget
It’s simple, yes, so don’t compromise on these three OR on the order. I’m serious!
1. Do not compromise on the FIT!
If it is too long, it is very simple to alter, however it is tougher to achieve the right fit when it comes to your waist, hips and thighs. Always prioritize fit in these areas.
 
2. There are so many brands out there with  premium quality.
You don’t have to compromise on the look either, whether you want faded, dark, light, distressed, etc… Keep the look in mind and stay true to that! For example: If you want a vintage look there are many textures that can help you achieve it, it’s not just one colour or fabric that will work. If you find this part a challenge I would suggest recruiting the help of a style expert or a personal shopper. They can help you with achieving the look you want without all the hassle of searching for the pieces yourself!
3. Here is the scary part: How much will this cost me??
Ok this is obviously a personal decision, but, with the exception of designer jeans (where you paying for the label) you get what you pay for with premium denim. A good stylist, or personal shopper will help you find the best value for your money. It is the easiest way to help you find the right fit for your shape, the right look for your style and it can all be within your budget.
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