“The Gentleman’s Checklist is not only a guide to the essentials for the dapper lifestyle, but rules to live by because being a gentleman is a choice that never goes out of style.”
- CONFIDENCE ….is key!
Without that, little of what you say or do will be as effective as you would like it to be. Know your worth and what you can offer and you’ll be amazed at what gets attracted to your new emanating energy! Dig deep and find the elements that make you authentically you and own it.
- SWAGGER & CHARM.
Gentlemen, a healthy dose of both these qualities will let people know you look good, feel good and will inevitable attract people to you. So before you second guess yourself, give yourself the pep talk you need to push those shoulders back and walk like you own the place. Remember, what you convey through body language is communicated 93% stronger than verbal communication so make sure you’re sending the right message.
This is not just a dying art form, it’s a must! Whether you’re walking that elderly lady across the street or holding the door open for a mom with a stroller, like it or not, your manners are saying more about you then you realize. The mark of a true gentleman can always be seen in the way he treats those around him.
Because good old romance ain’t dead yet. To those gents clever enough to truly understand the locks this magical key will open, kudos. For the rest of you … google it ASAP!
5. SIGNATURE SCENT
So she can sense your presence before she even lays eyes on you and stay on her mind long after that kiss good night. Did you know that fragrances smell different on every person? Everyone has a different body chemistry and because of that every scent will translate differently on your skin than the next guy. When purchasing a signature scent keep 2 things in mind: i) what you WANT to smell like and ii) what the fragrance smells like on you after a few hours. You will want to test out a few and DON’T buy the same day – make sure you still like it after the top notes have faded. A gentlemen’s signature scent will not only make an impression, it’s your lasting impression… so make sure it’s a good one.
- KNOW YOUR WINE
A gentleman is only as smooth as the wines that he enjoys. Know your basics, this doesn’t mean you need to be a connoisseur but know the difference between a Merlot and a Malbec. Taste a few and determine what your favorites are then find out what year they had the best grapes! You will be dripping of sophistication and elegance as you impress the socks (and maybe more) off your dinner date.
7. A GREAT SUIT … or THREE!
The Gentlemen’s Wardrobe Essential’s Checklist (a more in depth look, in an upcoming article) requires you to be presentable and appropriate for any and all occasions life brings your way. This means you will need in your wardrobe, at minimum, i) a perfectly fit black suit for the unexpected funeral or formal affair ii) navy suit for daytime functions and less formal occasions iii) grey suit, to alternate with the navy suit for daytime, less formal occasions as well as the spring/summer months. These three suits will provide you the foundation for a suiting selection for looking dapper and sophisticated no matter the occasion.
- A GREAT TAILOR.
Not an option if you do not get your suits custom made. Although I always recommend a made to measure or bespoke suit (which one is dependent on budget) given the option, if you must purchase off the rack, alterations are not something you want to take a chance with. You want people to notice YOU in the suit, not the suit you are in and a great tailor will ensure you get noticed for looking sharp.
9. MENS ACCESSORIES.
Because clothes don’t make the man, his accessories do. Ok so this is obviously arguable, however, a well accessorized gentleman is seen as paying attention to the fine details. So make a point of investing in that great watch, that sexy bracelet and classic sunglasses you’ve been debating; it all adds to the image and look of sophistication and class. It’s all in the details.
What are you passionate about? Job? Car? Sports? Fashion? Family? Don’t be afraid to show off those things that hold a key to your heart – that’s what makes you human and real and nothing is more appealing than a gent who’s not afraid of his emotional side. On the other hand, it also shows that you are multi-dimensional and have hobbies and interests. Whether you are looking to impress that special someone or putting your best self forward with the bosses, showing your human side makes you seem balanced in life and in control of what you want.